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  • TeaWithDani@lemmy.worldtoTechnology@lemmy.worldDating Apps Are Dying
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    3 days ago

    Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who you can’t understand signals from? It shows your communication isn’t on the same level yet.

    Real confidence is not overthinking things. Paying attention is a social skill like any other. I think learning it is the best relationship skill you can give yourself.

    You can’t love someone off the bat, it’s something that builds. It’s normal to not be sure at first.

    Dating and love is ambiguous and complex.


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    4 days ago

    Yep, so you don’t do that. I’ve never seen anyone confess their feelings and not get met with rejection. What can you expect if you put someone on the spot?

    Flirting is about ambiguity and plausible deniability, because you are giving yourself and them ways out of the situation if the vibes don’t match.



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    The more people use them, the less they work. That’s kind of the whole model right?

    They are inherently all flawed because they keep you away from the single only reliable way to date: growing your social circle.

    Even if you match someone, that’s a single date where you may or may not continue to see each other. Whereas if you spend all that time and effort hanging out with your friends, getting to know people that are in your and their orbits, you are growing your social circle exponentially and exposing yourself to far more dating opportunities while looking like you’re not even trying. And even if it doesn’t work, you are still making being single more fun for yourself by having a rich social life.

    Just spend that time reconnecting with old friends, hanging out with people from work or joining some club or class. That’s how to be successful dating. Specifically by not “dating”. To me dating is something that just happens naturally, you don’t need to go looking for it. Just be ready when the opportunity arises. Learn to spot them. Its a social skill like any.