This question was inspired by a meme I just saw, and my longtime crush on Brad Pitt, who’s 45 years older than me.
Youngest: my age. Oldest: if it’s someone in as good shape as Brad Pitt, the sky’s the limit.
I don’t date anymore, but I don’t subscribe to the idea that a lot of people think there is a formula to figure it out. I don’t hold a position of power or authority, so if there was a connection between me and another adult, the age doesn’t matter.
No-one.
Absolutely no-one.
If I get widowed tomorrow, imma gonna stay single for the rest of my days.
Not only am I edging into that age where I am becoming increasingly cranky and unwilling to change for someone else (I have changed enough for my wife of 30 years), but I have also been keeping a light finger on what’s happening out there between the sexes, and holy shite that’s become one hell of a mess that I want absolutely nothing to do with.
I mean, the door isn’t going to be barred and locked. But it is going to be firmly closed and with a cinder block in the way. If someone wants through, they are going to have to demonstrate real effort in their pursuit of me.
But then again, I would be shocked AF if any woman thought pursuit of any kind wasn’t beneath them. So I guess my peace and quiet would be quite safe. Thank the lord.
The youngest I’d go is 23 for a short term fling. If I was to end up in a relationship, I’d like someone in their mid to late thirties.
Yeah, a fling is different. Maybe I’d go 22 at the youngest if they don’t look too young and give an instant ick.
Not many choices is why lol.
25-38, maybe even 40’s?
I used that formula to half-jokingly look for a partner on my blog. And it worked. I was 22 and she was 27. “So old!” I thought back then. Didn’t help that she sent me a really ugly blurry photo. Still, I was desperate and liked our conversations.
Now we’re married and laugh about that “huge age gap”.
Joke answer: whomever my wife would let us.
Actual answer: I don’t know. I’m in my mid 40s. If I had to start over for some reason and was looking for a serious relationship, at least 30s as the minimum. Max would be low 50s, probably, though I’ve not thought a ton about it.
Actualer answer: if I ever lost my wife, I doubt I could/would pursue a serious relationship again or at least for a long enough time to make my answer above probably innacurate.
I think I’d be done for good.
This depends on what you mean by date
If you mean pursue a long term relationship, the answer probably is around 30 and 45
If you mean a short term fling or one time thing, the answer is 25 to probably 60. This depends a lot on their physical condition.
Edit: also, F38
Damn! We’d fit perfectly (ok, on the edges), if only I was in good physical condition /s
But seriously I totally agree, where I previously strongly preferred someone near to my age, that no longer seems as relevant.
- a short term thing would be purely physical. I wouldn’t be too picky
- a relationship would have to be about as active as me, similar interests, etc. one of the challenges is compatible sex drive and that gets harder with age
M<older>- probably consider 40-60 but would be suspicious of the ulterior motives of the younger ones
35-45 seems like a good range at the moment
No more than 10 years either direction. Would probably try to stay closer to 5 though. But really depends on their personality and their intelligence. I can’t date someone that can’t have an intelligent conversation or honestly believes easily disproven shit.
Half my age +7 and double my age -7
If you’re 20 thats great but I’m not dating a geriatric.
This is NOT the correct formula.
*edited
It is *alf your age +7 and Your age -7 doubled.
Shouldn’t the latter actually be “My age - 7, then doubled”? That’s the order of operations to find a number that matches the “half plus 7” rule.
For example, say you’re 66 and looking for the lowest age according to the first formula. 66/2 = 33. Then 33 + 7 = 40.
Which should mean that for a 40 year old, the upper age would be 66. If we do 40 - 7 = 33, then 33 x 2 = 66. These numbers match.
But if we followed OP’s formula, we’d end up with 73 instead. (40 x 2 = 80, and 80 - 7 = 73.) That’s a 9 year difference. Meanwhile, if we did “half plus 7” for a 73 year old, we’d get 43.5. The numbers don’t line up.
You are correct, I’m so used to seeing it I didn’t sanity check the whole thing. Your maximum = their minimum using the same rule.
So 28-77 for me… I’d prefer +/-7
Damn, works surprisingly well!
Meme in question:
Half your age plus 7 is an okay rule for finding the floor. Don’t aim for the floor. Plus 10 is less eyebrow raising.
I strongly prefer older. Thing is both 26 and 35 are kind of hot. And I know one 38 year old that is quite hot.
Unfortunately, she is the bosses daughter, and talks to me as if I were a child.
So, I just noted passively that she is hot and divorced.
10 is waaay too young bro
…what? Poor joke or failure at math?
Just a dumb joke because that’s how it initially read to me.
“Plus, it’s just easier to go with a nice, round 10-year-old.”
Your comment is unfortunately easy to misread as “Plus, 10 is less eyebrow raising” and then skip the math…
I think +7 is common because it’s the kind of rule that mostly matters when you’re young, and more than 7 breaks it too often. For instance +10 means as an 18y/o I would have to date a 19 y/o… where-as +7 makes sense for people as young as 14.
I’m 53, so probably 43 to 58, but there are always exceptions to the rule.
Youngest: A mayfly, born this morning and destined to die this evening, which landed on my nose.
Oldest: A mountain with ancient bones, eroded by the aeons to a mere hill with sides of crumbling rock.
Oh you mean humans? Well, anyone between the ages of 47 and 52 I guess.
I only date people who are physiologically in their twenties but chronologically in their one hundred and twenties.
/I have a thing for time travelers.
Me too…where did you find these, “time travelers”?
Yesterday.
Vampires?
