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  • This is moronic advice coming from someone who has never even held a gun, much less seen a situation where one is a life-saving tool. Firearms don’t work like they do in the movies.

    If you want to use one for self-defense, seek professional training, learn the local laws, and also make sure you have insurance. Even lawful uses of firearms get brought into court. This can be financially disastrous if you aren’t prepared for it.

    If you choose to deploy a firearm for personal defense, you shoot high-center-mass and you shoot until the target stops doing whatever it was that warranted them being shot. In areas that have a duty to retreat, you must comply with those and other requirements before, during, and after you deploy your firearm.

    Don’t listen to internet knuckleheads about firearms. It’ll get you killed or imprisoned for a very long time.






  • That’s the trick - I don’t do everything. It just isn’t physically possible. So, I don’t kill myself trying.

    For a full bathroom (sink, toilet, tub and shower), I prioritize the stuff that matters most - toilet and sink. Cleaning those takes me 10 minutes, tops. Those are what stays clean on a day to day basis. Everything else gets dealt with weekly (sweeping, trash), monthly (tub, shower) or less frequently.

    The lie Americans have told themselves is that it is possible for a family of 2-4 to perform a ridiculous number of tasks to live in 4-star hotel conditions their entire adult lives. It’s a fantasy that has people killing themselves to dust corners of their homes that literally nobody sees or cares about.

    You’ve got better things to do with your time than dusting. Like resting from your day job.


  • None of the things you mention has anything to do with the job itself. How you show up and when is what matters.

    There’s a lot of mythology around work that is just no longer true and hasn’t been true since the 1990s, if not the 1980s.

    The only time your boss cares about you going “above and beyond” is in situations where it will make them look good to their boss. Don’t waste your energy going above and beyond just randomly. It won’t get noticed and it’ll only burn you out.

    Providing quality customer service is never wasted effort, but it doesn’t mean putting up with entitled customers. If people aren’t interacting with you at least calmly, don’t waste the energy engaging. Don’t engage with adults having tantrums.

    Most importantly - don’t dilute your wage. If you’re hourly, be meticulous about clock-in and clock-out times. Don’t do work unless you’re on the clock. If you’re salary, that means you give what you have; it doesn’t mean you kill yourself for the job. If I’m sick, my salary pays for the ~30% effort that I’ve got to give. Trying to give 100% when you don’t have it is a great way to burn yourself out and gain nothing in return. If you’re good at something other people value, never ever do it for free. All people will do is take advantage.

    Most household chores that actually need to be done boil down to a handful of things that need daily attention and can be done in 15 minutes or less, the weekly crap that takes 30 minutes or less once a week, and then monthly and quarterly maintenance cycles. If you’re spending more than ~30 min. a day, plus ~1 hour on the weekends doing choring, you’re probably wasting your energy on things that don’t truly matter. You can scale back and not worry so much about keeping your space ready for a Martha Stewart catalog. Focus on what’s truly essential and let the rest slide.