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That’s a rare combination to have all in one person.
It’s also way too much to ask of someone. It’s not fair of you to expect that someone forgoes their own emotional health to take care of yours. A relationship is a transaction, like it or not. There’s push and pull, each person needs to get something positive out of it and if you’re spending so much time telling your partner they’re a bad person, they’re going to leave. Nobody deserves that.
That’s not to say you don’t deserve love, because you do. But it sounds like there’s a lot of work ahead for you to manage your mental health and get to a place where you can trust someone in the way they should be trusted in a loving relationship.
Both of these things would seem like obvious things almost anybody could provide, but when I’m crying constantly or trauma is getting triggered multiple times a day, even the best people walk out, or snap.
This behavior is extremely exhausting for someone to manage. Your partner has their own problems to deal with too. Between work, school, children, planning meals, managing the house, vacations, holidays, healthcare, and many more things, there’s so much work to be done in life. You need to be a productive part of the relationship. Share in the burdens of life to help make them easier on someone, as they do for you, instead of being another chore to deal with.
My suggestion is to continue spending a lot of time working on yourself. Learn to trust again, learn to love yourself, understand the needs of others, and understand the part you play in a relationship. Nobody is obligated to love you, but (almost) everyone is deserving of love (I say almost because there are insanely cruel people in this world).
Lastly, ALL OF WHAT I SAID APPLIES TO YOU TOO FROM SOMEONE ELSE. Anything you need from someone is something that someone should be able to provide to you, and vice-versa. Don’t expect anything from anyone that you wouldn’t do yourself, just as they shouldn’t do the same. Find someone who wants to take care of you, the same way that you will take care of them.
Something racist about the way black people smell, I think is what they mean.
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Canada@lemmy.ca•Let’s Set a Maximum Wage for the Rich | The TyeeEnglish
10·2 years agoAnything over a $500 million in asset value taxed at 100%.
Far above what anyone should own. And yet, you’ll get middle-class people defending the people with those riches, that they deserve to keep their billion dollars.
The biggest problem is that federation splits the communities between instances. So a single interest may have 5-10 different communities, all with fewer users than on an equivalent subreddit.
I’ve been saying this since the beginning, Lemmy needs a way to follow topics that allow you to subscribe to all related communities at once. And posting to a topic on one community allows it to show up across different communities of the same topic.
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PC Gaming@lemmy.ca•Xbox's Strategy Doesn't "Hinge On People Moving All-Digital" Says Phil Spencer
3·2 years agoYou don’t really with physical these days either, at least not with video games. Lots of games require online services to play then and become bricked when the servers are shut down.
And then most of the time, a disk doesn’t even have the game on it. It’s essentially just a download license for you to download the actual game digitally. It’s all an ownership scam.
Become by Beach House
It really warms my heart to see unions coming back strong.
They’re the baristas. Because at least they can make latte art while they scrounge for tips from the tip jar.
I see that rogue Google Play Music icon there. Makes me sad they killed it.
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Science@beehaw.org•Mathematicians have finally proved that Bach was a great composerEnglish
3·2 years agoThey’re both so overrated.
Chopin, Liszt, and Debussy are where it’s at.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•If you had to change your first name to something uncommon, what would you change it to?English
4·2 years agoSmith, probably.
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Gaming@beehaw.org•Disney Unveils the Holotile Floor Inching Us Closer to a Real Life HolodeckEnglish
1·2 years agoIt’s only a first version. I’m sure with time, it’ll get even better.
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Gaming@beehaw.org•Nintendo’s Next Switch Coming This Year With LCD, Omdia SaysEnglish
1·2 years agoPeople are literally only asking for the same console, a few refinements, and with better performing internals.
The form factor is excellent, if a bit flimsy. But games like TOTK and whatever next 3D Mario game comes out deserve to have better graphical fidelity than what the current switch can put out. I stopped playing TOTK because I just kept getting framerate drops.
Please give the Switch 2 more powerful internals!
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PC Gaming@lemmy.ca•These Two Games are 9 Years Apart [Suicide Squad and Batman: Arkham Knight]
7·2 years agoIt’s not just contrast though. It’s weather effects, particle effects, details in textures on the roads, buildings, and other objects.
Camera effects are better, animations are more dynamic, lighting is way more contrasty, but tasteful. There’s also much more detail in distant buildings, making the world feel much bigger than it is.
Rocksteady did a killer job with the Arkham games and the suicide squad game is just not even close.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•So ya'll been playing the game (life) so far, what did you do to make your character (you) unique?English
1·2 years agoMy justification of procrastination skill is maxed out.
I always thought the “no man can kill me” not including women was a dumb loophole.
The Nazgul should have written his rule as “no gender identity can kill me.”
I love this and I love the game! Well done
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•How would you feel if Beehaw left the Fediverse?English
3·2 years agoBeehaw as an instance doesn’t have nearly enough content to justify defederation. It wouldn’t be missed if they moved somewhere else.
That being said, I do enjoy the discussions and would personally be disappointed to see it move or be closed off, but not enough to move with it.
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Technology@beehaw.org•New Japanese law may force Apple to allow sideloading in iOSEnglish
6·2 years agoGonna sideload cocaine while I mainline heroin.









This makes me realize that I can’t think of hardly any videogames with a black character at the forefront.
Sure, there are black playable characters in MOBAs and MMOs, but how many story-driven games have black characters at the forefront?
The most recent one I can think of is Alan Wake 2. And Spider-Man Miles Morales. But there really are so few compared to those with white main characters. Which is sad.