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Cake day: 2023年7月12日

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  • For me it’s communication, honesty, openness, willingness to listen, and acceptance of where the person is coming from in their reactions and emotions. This is a result of childhood trauma and any long-term traumatic experience. CPTSD (complex PTSD), if you’d like to read about it. This kind of thing is learned below a conscious level so you can’t just logic yourself out of the reaction, it’s almost hard coded. Working together helps both of you figure out how to handle it, unfortunately there is no trick. It takes time and work and patience and love.






  • My partner and I got together in April of last year. I was 57 and he was 58. He is the love of my life. That person can come into your life at any time, don’t close the door on that opportunity for love. You ARE still young and have tons of life and love to share. It’s amazing the depth of emotion and connection you can share with the right person, I had no idea that older people had so much going on in their relationships.

    People change, and when they change to the point that they are no longer the person you married, and you can’t work out how to stay that makes you both happy, it’s time to move on. No matter the age. There is no age limit on happiness and you only get this one life to experience it. I wish you the best.







  • Agree completely about Heinlein. The opinions people have about what he would have agreed or disagreed with are baffling to me. It’s like the only things they read are Moon is a Harsh Mistress, Starship Troopers, and Beyond This Horizon and they believe he was advocating a position instead of trying to get you to think and ask questions.

    I’m so tired of the idea that “an armed society is a polite society” is any kind of good or that it is a society that should be longed for. Same for mandatory service.