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I’d give nearly anything to share a meal/drink/joint with Hidetaka Miyazaki.

Estoy aprendiendo español. Me encantaría practicarlo contigo (y inglés, si necesitas ayudar también).

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    my interpretation, at least:

    the trap is the government (the US’ in this example, perhaps) promising freedom of speech/unlawful search and seizure; but then terrorizing and inflicting violence upon those whose opinions they disagree with, but much more regularly and openly.

    Those trapped think they are protected from such retaliation because they have ignored/permitted/trivialized the systemic violence against marginalized groups that has been prevalent for centuries. They ignore the signs of their country’s propensity for fascism, and its intentional increase of brazenly hateful rhetoric and policies.

    But they are by no means exempt, and many won’t realize that until it’s too late.




  • Your question is a little unclear.

    If you’re talking about a debate, or needing to approach someone about something, it’s best to go in as prepared as possible and address any new arguments as they come.

    However, the other person has to feel like they’re being heard, understood, and (often) validated in some form—even if it’s not completely genuine—if there is ever a chance of getting them to change their mind.

    If this is a personal (or professional) conflict, though, be careful. To some people, it doesn’t matter what you say or how you say it, even if they’re in the wrong.





  • when I was in high school, I found a puppy (not totally sure, but I’m guessing a pit bull/lab mix) on the porch of my parent’s place a few days before Christmas. Best guess is someone dumped her off at the property, since it’s a farm in a relatively remote area.

    Anyway, I convinced my parents to let us keep her. Charlie was an extremely beautiful and sweet dog. But eventually I left for college and moved away.

    During the last few years of her life/she would act erratically around me when I’d visit. One second she’d be happy to see me, and the next she growled and snapped at me, and did this to others, too. I ended up having to avoid her entirely. Devastating, to say the least.

    We never found out why, despite visits to the vet. Dementia, perhaps.


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    Are there exceptions? Absolutely.

    Exceptions imply that these roles are not strictly inherent to animal (including human) behavior. If colonizing countries weren’t all patriarchal, I’m sure we would’ve seen many more exceptions.

    These exceptions exist for a reason, whether or not they fit your personal worldview.

    But for most of the existence of the human species, it was just like that - males were taking care of food and protection, while females were doing the “safer” jobs, like childcare of gathering.

    This is just a bad argument, and has been used to justify all kinds of awful things. why would the fact that humans have always done things a certain way imply that that’s a good thing? Is slavery a good thing? rape? colonization? genocide?

    Rigid gender roles have only truly served half of the human population. Even so, men have also suffered in other ways because of them. Why shouldn’t we work to better everyone’s lives, in as many ways as we can manage?

    Yes, biology is complex, but the case of humans is rather clear-cut.

    This is demonstrably false. Biologists have known as much for… quite a while. Please consider informing yourself before making claims about important topics.


  • I don’t necessarily believe that this trait is inherent to humankind; instead, I think it’s a product of cultures that value things like power and hyperindividualism.

    I do believe that there will always be (insecure) people who seek some level of power and/or wealth without regard for others. Whether or not they succeed would—I assume—depend on how that society views authority/skepticism/community/ect; if allowed, that would nudge society a little bit in that direction. And so on.

    Sadly, , some governments and corporations have spent millenia aquiring and wielding their vast power and wealth to cripple and exploit other societies that they can benefit from without too much pushback. Which obviously ravages those cultures, too, and often by design.

    So… it’s a little hard to know for certain what is truly in our nature.



  • Firstly, a disclaimer…while I shouldn’t really have to say this given the language I’ve used, I will anyway: I am by no means talking about ALL men.

    The problem is that this is not an unfounded stereotype, made evident by the fact that the discrepancy between how household and childcare tasks are divided between partners (heterosexual, at least) is still a significant and prevalent issue.

    Subconsciously or otherwise, this sadly rings true with a lot of men, who, at least in part, want—and sometimes expect—a woman who will adopt every role a mother would take. That is, taking care of most of the chores/household management/childcare duties, and without protest. Even when, say, both of them work full-time jobs.

    Too many of these men either 1. do not know how to do simple household tasks (and are not unlikely to have adopted learned helplessness as a result), 2. deliberately delay or fuck up chores to get their partner to get frustrated and give up on asking for help altogether, or 3. simply don’t notice how much more work their partner is doing than they are.

    I acknowledge that a lot of boys aren’t taught how to cook do chores as much as girls are, and those who haven’t been were failed by the adults in their life in that regard. It’s not a valid excuse once you’re an adult, though.