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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • It’s so situational, and aggressive/inconsiderate drivers never seen to think on the details of why people are driving a certain way.

    I’ve only driven through Boston a few times, but I’ve noticed on the East Coast there are lots of old highways and freeways built before all of the lessons learned and modern practices, so you have things like alternating exits on the left and right of the freeways. So some people need to be in the left lane to exit, and others to the right.

    I figure, if you are within 1-2 miles of your exit, go ahead and get in whatever lane you need even if you are going slower, because the alternative is an aggressive merge two minutes later. Likewise, if you are going 5-10 over in the far left and continuously passing relatively dense traffic in the middle lane, I don’t think you need to slow down, merge over, and then try and fight your way back just because one guy wants to do 10-20 over.

    That said, of the middle lane is mostly open and you camp in the left lane going barely over the limit, that just creates a hazard as people pass to your right.

    And this doesn’t even touch on HOV lanes in the far left. Like, of in driving with my family and want to be in the HOV, I’ll get people who want to go 20 over tailgating me acting like I should leave the HOV lane because it is the far left lane. So I dunno what the etiquette even is in some situations, but some aggressive drivers are just never happy if they can’t speed like the highway is their person race track.


  • 50% probably wouldn’t be enough, but I don’t know that details of residential development well enough. I think that baking it on size and amenities more than cost to determine if it is reasonable might be better.

    Doing a one off upgrade/remodel/rebuild is always more expensive per unit or sqft than a large development that follows variations on one design and overhead diffuses costs over many units.

    Add in custom design for security, which probably includes fire suppression, gardening against attack, and security infrastructure, and you are likely much more than 50% over market per sqft of remodeled space.

    But you can compare features more readily. If it has five kitchens, a grand entrance with marble columns and a double stairwell, then it’s well into luxury wants and not living and hosting needs plus security.


  • Most lawyers never litigate or actively engage in matters before a court. There are whole armies of lawyers who do contract law, agreement reviews, general counsel in organizations, tech transfer specialists, etc. These folks advise clients and help manage risk and would never be in a position to need to lie in most cases. Their job is to advise business decision makers, and you don’t need to agree with the decisions made to advise on the risk landscape.

    Even outside of that, there is a lot of ambiguity and conflict in large amounts of our statutes and promulgated policy, such that two lawyers can disagree about the application of law and neither one is lying.

    The kind of lying that is objectively lying, like suppressing or mischaracterizing facts, are also breaches of their ethical code of conduct and would put them at risk of professional repercussions from the courts or the BAR.

    So while there are bad apples like in any profession, most lawyers don’t lie more than anyone else, and probably less given they have incentives to be transparent in their role.


  • I’ll second the kingrinder k6. I use it for my daily routine, and mostly make French press and moka pot, which seems pretty on brand for your use. It can go extremely fine or more coarse. Grinding on finer settings takes a little extra work, but grinding an 18 gram dose of beans on 90 click seeing for use in a French press takes about 45 seconds to a minute. I can have a French press or moka pot fully prepped for hot water before my kettle boils, so I don’t find the time to grind an issue. Also, manual grinders are quieter if that is an issue with early morning brews and others still sleeping.



  • If you get paralyzed picking which story game to play next, maybe getting really picky about which ones make the list and then literally roll the dice or use an RNG generator to pick one. If they are all good, and your gameplay spread across a long time with work and kids, then any “mood” you are in, in the moment, will be averaged out over time. If you get into a game and find it really just isn’t for you, give yourself permission to move on.

    In short, make the decision less consequential to avoid paralysis. That was my method anyway, being in similar situation with life time constraints.








  • Like the other person said, getting the ratio and amount is more important than the source. But you should ask yourself why you are taking the supplement? Are you sure you’re not getting enough from your food? Your body can really only prices 20-40 grams of protein at once, so if you are loading up more than that at a time, you are just piking on calories.

    Personally, depending on your current weight, you might think about focusing more on weight loss than bulking muscle mass. Absolutely work out of it is helpful, but don’t worry about mass gains while trying to lose fat. You will develop muscles regardless of whether you micromanage your protein intake or not, and you can optimize better after losing some fat.

    But again, you need to check, with, and measure the calories in every portion of food until you develop an accurate read on the calories in things. Like peanut butter having about 100 calories per tablespoon (half ounce).


  • I’ve read through your comments, and highly suggest a food diary for at least a couple weeks ago you really understand the calories in things you are eating.

    Yes, your body does modulate its resting metabolic rate over the long term based on things like average daily exertion, food, etc, but that is largely inconsequential to weight loss.

    As a rough guideline, you want about 50% of your calories to be carbs, preferably the fiber or complex variety, 30-35% protein, and the rest fat. If you run a lot, then a few more carbs. If you lift weights a lot, then a little more protein.

    Protein will help you feel fuller, longer, so I like to go my ratio of protein a bit.

    Meals that I enjoy: steal cut oats and peanut butter, pan seared tofu with salad and a light dressing, bean chilli, tacos or tostados using those low carb tortillas, bowl of rice, refried beans, salsa, and guac, etc

    But you really, really need to have a good understanding of portions and actual calories. Most people are way off.

    Edit: also, some fasting cardio, like a good brisk walk or jog in the morning before eating anything can help accelerate things. But don’t fall into the trap of eating back the calories you burn.






  • I’ve always been confused by these conversations though. Aren’t people who are having kids doing so because they want to, whatever want might mean to them? Fulfilling just seems like another way to pursue fulfillment/happiness or whatever it is that individuals pursue.

    When my wife and I chose to have kids, we enjoyed it. We derive fulfillment and satisfaction out of raising kids. Yeah it’s frustrating at times, and you do have trade-offs, but we did it because we wanted to, to feel happy/fulfilled. We didn’t start a lifelong journey to support children into adulthood out of some weird sense of patriotism or something. Anyone doing that is weird.