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Cake day: June 29th, 2025

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  • Can I just take this opportunity to vent, I’m so annoyed. My grandsons school closed due to the asbestos kinetic sand thing, you know how they informed everyone, and blindly expected every one to see it, exactly as it was released. I violently hate the fact schools and official places use Facebook for community noticeboards and communication tools. I appreciate your efforts.

    Eta, my grandson is in my care, he’s asd lvl 3 and of course I turned up to take him to school, why couldn’t they just email or text. They can text you if you’re late dropping off etc.




  • I think they mean how the suggested responses were summarised, sometimes when you choose that dialogue option it doesn’t always say the thing it suggested in exactly the way you were expecting,. Personally I found it on point and did fit within the parameters of the summarisation. My 17yo son played it and loved it so much he made me sit and play it with him, and I noticed that he didn’t pick up on what some of the dialog summaries meant. Whereas old and ancient me, whose been around the block a fair bit, understood the nuances behind them all.





  • Learning that When you’re in an abusive relationship they purposefully sever your connection with self. They make huge demands around their emotions, whilst putting you in a position to abandon your needs and emotions, entirely, which severs your sense of self and disconnects you from your own emotions. Without those connections, you flounder, severely. I then worked on unstitching all the brain washing, and then, trying to recognize the negative dialogue as their narrative, not mine. I worked on rebuilding my sense of self and self worth, and reconnecting with my emotions, listening to them and soothing them, putting myself first, as if I were a dear friend or looking after myself as I would my own child. Exampling how to treat yourself, teaches kids how they should be treated and treat themselves as adults. I read everything I could, to learn about abuse and how it works, because once you understand how they perform their tricks, they don’t work on you, they lose their power entirely. Worked on why I cared what others think of me, and why I was abandoning myself for these imagined others, opinions, and not living by my own opinions and beliefs. I had this belief that others opinions were somehow more valid than mine, which is not true. Asking why, and expecting a real answer with valid facts, from all those “one rule for me another for thee” rules abusers put in your head, helped me to see, and dispel a lot of the abuse and brain washing. Because those “rules” never stack up. They’re not transferable, they usually only applied to me, why was I only deserving of dirt, why did I believe that, I wouldn’t treat anyone else like that, why did I feel like it was right to treat myself like all I deserved was dirt. I was told every day of my life I was worthless and not good enough and I don’t try hard enough and I was a burden (burden isn’t quite the right word I’m looking for, burden implies they were doing things for me, which was never the case, I was told I wasn’t deserving of even basic pleasantries, I was treated as an abomination. Looking back now I can see the levels of cruelty you have to have as a person to do that to someone else, and I can clearly see they’re twisted cruel people who have no ability to define things, opinions don’t define things, opinions are only relevant to the head they live in. I read somewhere that if someone has the opinion that they don’t like peanut butter, we don’t all stop eating just because one person doesn’t like it, why do we believe it about ourselves. And it helped me immensely.