My childhood was filled with proverbial dodging bullets and land mines. My adult life is a lot more chill because I have chosen to remove the drama that caused my childhood from my life.
This one really resonates with me.
In my 20’s I was just some guy working in a factory.
In my 30’s I learned about CNC lasers and CAD and got to do cool things. Now im 40-something and I get to do and see cool things, and even design cool things.
It’s amazing what can happen when you finally stop looking at everything like a teenager.
If only. I feel better than ever but it seems like my fortune is just shit and I’m entering a severe depression that leaves me angry and unable to enjoy life.
wait until you see what 40 feels like…
Pretty great so far, honestly
I really relate to this comic. I didn’t like being a child that much, and I feel alienated a lot on the internet by people constantly wishing they could go back to having no responsibilities. I really, really like being able to control my own destiny and decide what I wanna do, even though it comes with increased pressures and responsibilities.
Being an adult is awesome. I get to have a motorcycle, my own cat, I can build whatever I want, I can have chickens if I want, and I have a really cute wife. What could I do as a kid? Go to school? Live with my parents? Hang out with people who had the minds of children? Boooring.
Hell yes to this. Childhood, Highschool, and even in to college were some of the worst years of my life. I never want to repeat them. Sometimes I fantasize about what it would have been like to be “normal”, but I love who I am now and l do not want to give that up or go back.
You 🤝 me
Anyone who yearns for their life as child has developmental issues. I’m not trying to say that as a sick burn, I think it’s honestly sad and source of suffering for some people.
One of the moat depressing things I used to hear as a kid was how this was the best part of my life and I should enjoy it.
I literally found my purpose in my 30s. Nothing was meaningful nor worthwhile in my 20s
it took me about two years to truly realize i was in my 30s (I’m a bit stupid) but once that happened a massive weight lifted from my shoulders. i suddenly realized, wait, I’m a grown-ass man, i don’t have to deal with this bullshit. i became more confident, took no shit from people and stopped dealing with teenage drama. yes about 10 years too late but that’s when i realized some of the shit i used to entertain didn’t even matter.
Nah man, this is literally how it works. You ever notice how alot of folks who have kids or married someone they shouldn’t have super young feel like they never got out of their 20s? They never had the time to understand their own nature or the nature of the culture around them.
That social anxiety, the assumed judgment, the paranoia that everyone’s looking for a moment of weakness to exploit… Ya know, the feeling of being an adult who still feels like a teenager.
Your 30s are where you lose that, or at least I feel like you should. Early, mid, late, whenever. It’s just important that you do
Age 10-20 was miserable. Hormones. Parents. Bullies in high school. Difficult to find work. College struggle and debt.
Age 20-30 was better but still shit. Welfare. Homelessness. Police harassment. Juggling three jobs to pay rent.
Age 30-40 was so much better. Life was in order. Wife and I both leveled up our education and got a career. Traveled for the first time (Hawaii then Japan). Had kids.
Age 40 - life is getting better. Feels like the best days still happening.
I’m 35. Still waiting for life to stop being miserable. No hope in sight.
i had so much hope in my 20s. now in my 30s it’s gone
Yeah dunno what these guys are talking about. I think I got depression, not that one like people imagine, but real constant struggle to do anything.
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Age 10-20 wasn’t amazing, but still okay. My birth oerson
Midtwenties and it feels over in a lot of ways. The majority of friends I’ve made growing up or in college are gone. People have spread out and started focusing on their own lives. Even people that I only ever knew online have began moving on.
In a lot of ways this has been fine because I’ve just turned inward and started focusing on myself too, started being selfish about what I want. I miss seeing a lot of my friends in person rather than random texts or seeing their stories on snap.
It’s very confusing at times because I enjoy being able to do whatever I want when I want without consulting anyone but I also miss having people to do things with.
Something I really cherish is a scheduled phone call with two of my college buddies, themed on a movie or TV show we agree to watch that week.
One of us just abruptly made a group chat and asked if we’d be down, and we’ve been doing it for years now, I highly reccomend!
Let people go. You cant hold onto them forever, even in the best of cases. I have people who i consider my best friends that I haven’t seen in years. Maybe never again.
The river of life has many branches, we just floated down different ones. Dont take it personally.
I’ve let go of them but the issue is finding new people to replace them.
Accept lamer people like work colleagues and such.
Find a socially based hobby! I’ve been going to a weekly language exchange for a couple of years and it’s just as much language practice as it is social hangout.
This^ And that’s the beauty of the 30s because I think that’s about when you likely start to realize and understand this. It’s freeing.
It’s hard because there seems to be no place to hang out and meet people either. Not for a date, just to chill and make friends.
One of the last true 3rd places I’ve found is dog parks. If you go consistently at the same time each day you’ll be seeing a lot of the same people, who generally are down to chat. You can talk about their dog to break the ice, and I doubt people would even mind if you don’t have a dog.
Join a club! Having a group of people you see every week that are happy you’re there is what got me out of my worst depression. I’m in a run club and organize a mountain bike club, but if that’s not your speed there’s lots of others. An improv club/class will probably give you incredible social skills. But there’s roleplay clubs, book clubs, bowling/league night, kickball, knitting, and probably a bunch I can’t think of.
seconding what the other person said. just go hang out in public places, preferably ones where you can do something and have a natural reason to approach people.
it isn’t going to happen immediately. but eventually you will strike up conversations with people, and some of those will be good conversations, and some of those will be with people you like, and some of those will be with people who like you. and then you gotta actually get their contact info or plan to meet up again, maybe doing other things.
I’m 40. I feel like my life is over. My career was destroyed by Trump and all this AI bullshit. I fear becoming an old man and not being able to afford basic life essentials.
Maybe start fighting back?
Or, you know, sit there and get old and take it like a coward
Or, more likely, keep pretending that you’re not still WAY too comfortable to do fuck all
same boat
I just got a job as a mailman. Time to grab whatever career is left.
my friend did this too. i used to do door to door canvassing, it’s def hard on the body
I’m very scared about that.
My career is ok but my body is falling apart.
There’s still pleanty of fun and meaningful things I can do in my 30s
20s-30s: Time & energy, but no money.
60s-70s: Money & time, but no energy.40-50s: Not enough of any of them.
im in my 30s i dont feel like i have any time, energy, or money
I’ve found eating a rich person helps a lot.
Give up on money and you can use your time to sleep … which can make energy.
Worst case scenario you get some serious sleepies in
need money for place to sleep. although considering getting an rv
Yet but also: don’t blink too quickly…
You don’t want to dry out those tear ducts and go on empty when you turn 60!
Me discovering most of my hobbies IN my 30s:
Orly ?
It’s when you probably have your life in order and are comfortable with who you are. It’s a good time when you are most you.
Though for those who haven’t got either of those, it’s probably not going to be a good time. I feel for those people, I know a few.
I’m happy with myself in my 30’s it’s always nice to think of telling my younger self of the stuff I’ve done. British business the younger would be very surprised and absolutely jazzed about it.
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