Married and have a 6 year old. I lift 4 hours a week, do probably 50 or so miles on the peleton, game probably 10 hours a week, and I get to race my cars probably 5 times a year.
In bed by 8 or 9, up at 5 or 6. I have my stressful moments but overall it’s good.
If I have such a static routine everything starts to feel pointless to me. I feel the urge to break out, and just yell fuck it all, and walk away from everything.
I really need quite an amount of time that is not planned, and where I do whatever my mind wants in that moment. Otherwise I feel like an explosion is building up inside me.
And in turn that destroys every fitness, healthy eating or similar routine I have tried to encompass.
It seems impossible to create a life for myself with healthy routines, that also feels like actually living.
Hi! I am a less structured person living with a much more organized/routine husband.
Habit > Routine as far as exercise. Or anything but it works best for exercise because if you can force yourself to do it for the 6 weeks it takes to become a habit, you feel so much better it is self sustaining. I have always, always found everything works better when I set aside time for exercise, or effortful physical work. And really, if you just wander during your unstructured time, out in the world, move your body not sit still, that will do a lot.
For me, I have weekend adventures to break the monotony. Some weekends I go run in a 5k, some I go to cool exhibitions or make a trip to another city to explore some museums, and some I’m just chilling at home with family
Seasons also help. When your thing is going for a bike ride most evenings, it gets a lot harder when the cold wind, snow and early darkness make that not enough fun to brave, so you’re forced to shift to winter activities instead
Going to bed early means you can get up early! If you go to bed at 9 and get up at 5 you’ve got 3 more hours to do stuff in the morning than someone who goes to bed at midnight and gets up at 8. Also most people are most productive in the mornings so that can work better for those people too for getting their obligations completed
When I show up to work at 9, I work 8 hours + 1 hour lunch break, meaning I’m done at 6. If I go to the gym afterwards, I‘m home by 9, without having had dinner.
Absolutely possible. I’m quite happy.
Married and have a 6 year old. I lift 4 hours a week, do probably 50 or so miles on the peleton, game probably 10 hours a week, and I get to race my cars probably 5 times a year.
In bed by 8 or 9, up at 5 or 6. I have my stressful moments but overall it’s good.
Don’t you feel trapped sometimes?
If I have such a static routine everything starts to feel pointless to me. I feel the urge to break out, and just yell fuck it all, and walk away from everything.
I really need quite an amount of time that is not planned, and where I do whatever my mind wants in that moment. Otherwise I feel like an explosion is building up inside me.
And in turn that destroys every fitness, healthy eating or similar routine I have tried to encompass.
It seems impossible to create a life for myself with healthy routines, that also feels like actually living.
Hi! I am a less structured person living with a much more organized/routine husband.
Habit > Routine as far as exercise. Or anything but it works best for exercise because if you can force yourself to do it for the 6 weeks it takes to become a habit, you feel so much better it is self sustaining. I have always, always found everything works better when I set aside time for exercise, or effortful physical work. And really, if you just wander during your unstructured time, out in the world, move your body not sit still, that will do a lot.
Maybe routines just don’t work for you 🤷♂️ seems completely fine, no? Enjoy being creative and exciting, I bet you‘re an interesting person.
OP says they have a 6yr old, that alone structures life a lot.
Other than the occasional my wife and kid for whatever reason are driving me crazy and wanting to abandon them for a few days, no not really.
For me, I have weekend adventures to break the monotony. Some weekends I go run in a 5k, some I go to cool exhibitions or make a trip to another city to explore some museums, and some I’m just chilling at home with family
Seasons also help. When your thing is going for a bike ride most evenings, it gets a lot harder when the cold wind, snow and early darkness make that not enough fun to brave, so you’re forced to shift to winter activities instead
The notion of going to bed that early makes me tremendously sad.
I have to when I’m working
*The notion of choosing to go to bed that early makes me tremendously sad.
I just rode 10 miles and have an hour and a half of video game time before work.
It’s fantastic.
Going to bed early means you can get up early! If you go to bed at 9 and get up at 5 you’ve got 3 more hours to do stuff in the morning than someone who goes to bed at midnight and gets up at 8. Also most people are most productive in the mornings so that can work better for those people too for getting their obligations completed
“You get less steak, sure, but you get more cardboard!” 😆
Do you start work early then?
When I show up to work at 9, I work 8 hours + 1 hour lunch break, meaning I’m done at 6. If I go to the gym afterwards, I‘m home by 9, without having had dinner.
I can start when I feel like it, usually in-between 8-9. I’ll clock out by 4, nobody in US tech (where I am) is actually working 40.
Damn, thanks for the intel - and congrats, I‘m genuinely jealous of your schedule!