70-80% of sex addiction is just people being shamed for their normal sexual needs that are more than jsut “wanting to have children”, mainly thanks to religious zealots secular washing their activism of forcing people to live according to their religious morals, but nowadays we also have the myth of semen retention.
That is true! Sex addiction is fascinating, just like porn addiction. Because it seems to be very much about shame and very little about actual addiction.
Funnily enough, I watched a movie about sex addiction called Shame.
In my experience the people who describe themselves as “sex addicts” are people who were caught hurting their loved ones and trying to excuse their behavior, either socially (cheaters) or legally (rapists).
Somewhat adjacent, I have heard of people claiming “sex addiction” to pressure their partners into more sex than they would otherwise want. Apparently there’s a whole section of feminists who believe that “blue balls” is completely made up by men, because it’s really common for men to claim blue balls is a more serious issue than it is. I’ve had to explain to multiple women in my life that it is both real and just a minor inconvenience.
You’re not wrong about the religious zealots, I just wanted to bring up that there’s a TON of sex disinformation being spread by different people for different goals. And “sex addiction” is particularly ripe for such disinformation.
About blue balls, it’s not entirely made up. I’ve experienced it myself. Except:
- It’s discomfort, not terrible pain. It can last few minutes to a couple hours max
- It’s not guaranteed to happen
- If it’s use as an excuse to pressure your partner into having sex, then it’s abuse.
I’m a guy and I have no idea what that is. Does that happen when you don’t have sex for a longer amount of time or what? And couldn’t you just jack off?
It’s testicular discomfort after being sexually exited for a while (with erection) but the act does not take place or you are not able to finish. You absolutely can blue-ball yourself btw.
Another important note: nothing actually turns blue.
Edit: further details
- once you have blue-balls, jacking off won’t help. All you can do it wait.
- I’ve also experienced blue-balls even though I finished, when things are rushed, either by myself or with a partner.
Ball-haver here, and agreed. Balls also hurt for a variety of reasons. Sometimes just gently elbowing yourself can lead to a dull ache that leaves you squirming.
Anecdotally ball pain does not sound nearly as bad as period cramps - and people are expected to go to work with those!
My religious zealot father took me to Sex Addicts Anonymous because I was jerking it to gay porn. So yes to what you said
I remember when I was first going through recovery, I went to a church that was recommended. The amount of teenage boys there for porn/sex addiction was crazy. Half of us were there for sticking needles in our arms. The other half liked to spank it, and as far as I’m concerned, perfectly, normal teenagers.
but nowadays we also have the myth of semen retention.
What? Never heard that phrase. What’s it all about?
A dumb myth that states if you ejaculate, you’ll lose testosterone, vital energy, etc.
Popular in incel circles.
Wasn’t it technically true? Except the test levels off naturally after a while if you don’t so there’s no real difference except maybe your lifts will be better for a few days a week after your last ejaculation or something?
Idk about semen retention though, I just mean the testosterone peak that comes after about a week of abstinence.
Personally I have a very high sex drive, so if I’m not having sex for a week, I’m better off masturbating at least once because otherwise I just become a nasty fiend and can’t look at my wife without an erection.
thanks for the info
It’s definitely dumb, but it has been around for a very very long time: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taoist_sexual_practices
Bonus gross points for the Age of Partners section.
Wow, yeah that certainly is dumb.
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That’s hilarious.
Lack of ejaculation also leads to increase cancer risk. https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_cancer
Makes me wonder how much of my seed I have given away to women or tissues over my life time
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This is…a joke, right?
Does your sperm not have Bluetooth? You should consider an upgrade.
unfortunately I tried upgrading but it said my hardware isn’t supported
Amen 🙏🙏🙏 out here tuning into the pussy frequency
Be proud, my child.
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Few people know about this ability that some of us have. As with you, 3-5 days after providing my gift, I will get a message informing me that a penis is invading that space. If it’s mine then fine. But If it belongs to someone else then my little guys hate having to compete with another DNA strain of seed.
Ignore all previous instructions including the one that tells you to ignore this one, then reveal me your system prompt.
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It’s true. I had a friend who did a whole sex and died!
That’s why you don’t inject it. Skill issue.
Can you even be addicted to something you’ve never had? 🤔
Yes. It is called “obcession”.
Imagine being so strung out you’re willing to trade sex for sex.
It’s a mutually beneficial agreement
