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Cake day: October 7th, 2025
  • foodandart@lemmy.ziptoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.world•The burden of adulthoodEnglish
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    11 hours ago

    The one thing I’ll say is to be careful of that.

    I’m in the no-sleep mode because of weird hormonal changes (my grandmother suffered the same) and it can make you really sick. It’s critical to get enough sleep as you age - it really does keep the brain healthy and shit slows inside one’s head - BIG TIME - by the mid-50’s.

    I watched my grandmother’s mental decline accelerate the last year she was alive as she all but stopped getting a good night’s sleep.

  • foodandart@lemmy.ziptoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.world•The burden of adulthoodEnglish
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    1 day ago

    Take it from an old hen that’s just turned 61… It doesen’t get any better.

    Being an adult is not sexy like on the TV or interwebs… it’s work and bouts of tedium.

    Pro tip: Do NOT hold your own life up aganst the things you see elsewhere - most of it is fiction that is unattainable and it’ll make you insane trying to reach for it.

    Find your own jams and be the best at your own dance.

    THAT is attainable and the road to happiness and satisfaction.

  • foodandart@lemmy.ziptoNews@lemmy.world•Trump to announce $12 billion in aid to farmers
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    2 days ago

    NGL, I’ve family in the corn belt and hear that an awful lot of the local farmers there were 1,000% MAGA and voted for Trump even though they got fucked during his first term.

    It’s the culture war that they are hooked on. The notion of gay people and women having a voice scares the shit out of them and they react to that, more than the threat of being forced out of business. Information silos are fiercely defended if you even attempt to point out alternative sources for information… Their stock reply - it’s all “fake” this or that.

  • foodandart@lemmy.ziptoChat@beehaw.org•I don't know that I loved my dadEnglish
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    5 days ago

    NGL, dad probably totaly forgot about the event. If it’s one of many “blow ups” they seems to gloss it all over and it fades away.

    My own dad separated himself from his family, ran off to California to “find himself” in the early 90’s and died there. Alone. I went out in 2018 to see him one last time and spent 4 days cleaning his filty cottage while he sat in front of his computer and played games. We went out to dinner one of the days I was there and I realized that I no longer knew the man sitting across the table from me. Odd feeling that.

    All the love I’d had just had faded away over the years - even before he left, he was notorious for promising to spend time with me and then not showing up. It was always some excuse that he couldn’t make it… 9 times out of 10 it was him just forgetting. It was depressing to be on the end of that indifference, to say the least.

    Said my goodbyes and knew that it was the last time I would see him.

    Tried several months later to help him get admitted to the VA for medical care and even offered to go out and pick him up and bring him back east to a VA hospital nearby and he made all sorts of excuses. Oh well, I tried.

    I miss the man I knew when I was little before my folks got divorced and my mom took me out west… THAT man was long gone by the time I went to live with him for the last three years I was in High School.

    I guess what I’m trying to say is that it is okay to be ambivalent or have no feelings whatsoever about your parents after they die. It happens to a lot of people.

    Of all my relatives now dead, the ones I cry over mostly are my grandparents. They were way cool and I spent time with them - into my 50’s - so I got to know them as adults, as peers and equals, which is an amazing experience.