Sounds like adulting to me.
I’d pick this any day instead of the one where both sides verbally abusing one another leaving lifelong emotional traumas.
I’d rather get something like this instead of seeing it die off slowly and then not getting a straight answer or getting blindsided. Just rip the bandaid off—be honest about what’s going on. If you can’t learn to handle these situations and handle your emotions in a reasonable manner, then maybe you shouldn’t be dating yet…
Jesus. It’s just a funny message because she sounds exactly like the HR lady.
“Damn girl, I don’t even get a severance check?”
One girl dumped me after a few dates, nothing special, and she was super apologetic. She said she’d understand if I called her a fucking bitch and blocked her. I was so offended by that comment. I’m not one of those insecure guys who flips out when they get rejected. I can handle being dumped! I can’t believe she thought so lowly of me! Fucking bitch!
Self fulfilling prophecy?
“If you require any further information, please check our FAQ section before inquiring”
Hey, it’s polite and a response. Pretty good in my book
I got a message soon after I started talking to someone where they said they wanted to see where their current thing went with somebody they’d met a few times, and like, yeah, thanks and I respect that. it seemed genuine. I was happy to get that message instead of chats just disappearing when it seemed like it was going well.
I’d prefer her to just tell me she didn’t like my petrified broccoli tower.
Y’know, I’m fine with it because it is at least professional. Better than getting ghosted or them being rude about it.
The last thing I’m looking for in a relationship is professionalism.
You’re not looking for someone who has good communication skills?
Well this person is no longer in that relationship so that works out.
For women, bluntness and honesty is treated as assault.
For men, retaliation is unremarkable and unnoticed until it’s too late.
The message is fine. It’s the tone that is comedy.
Thank you for an excellent interview last week, and for showing interest in me. I have had many highly qualified applicants, and I regret to inform you that I have now decided to move forward with a different candidate. If a position should open up at a later date, please feel encouraged to apply for a position with me again in the future. Let me also take this opportunity to wish you a most wonderful day.
She’s in her hoe phase and you were just one item on her list. Move on.
Tell me you are a “nice guy” without saying you are a “nice guy”
Thats because they are afraid you’re going to lose it and verbally, physically or mentally abuse them.
I had a friend call me one night because she said no to a guy and he started threatening to kill himself. Like damn. That’s some insane guilt-tripping, manipulative bullshit right out the gate. And this wasn’t the first time this happened to her too.
It would be so hard me not to say “do it pussy.”
If you’re feeling especially strong about it you could call the cops for a welfare check on them.
My mom did this in high school when a guy who was stalking her threatened to kill himself.
He’s still alive, over thirty years later.
What a coward.
The concern there is they may decide to take you with them.
Oh please, not every bitchass is worth worrying about. Just be smart and armed.
Username checks out
That’s the right answer.
It’s happened to me. I called his friend and they came and collected him and his stuff.
That reminds me of one of my ex’s, she did far worse things but that shit still fucked with my head a lot too.
I have several such cases among my friends
Wait, aren’t women the ones more likely to use emotional manipulation though?
What are you basing this on
In my experience as a bi-woman, no. There are equally as many emotionally manipulative men and women. For men it often takes the form of “If you don’t do this physical thing (kiss, sex etc), you don’t like me.” or “If you ask for this security measure (meeting at a public place, using condomes), you don’t really like me.”
A small group of idiots can do a disproportionate amount of damage. These men can’t get and keep a lady, so go on a disproportionate number of first dates.
It’s the same with the inverse, “bunny boilers”. Far more men have been on the receiving end than most women expect. For women it’s even more extreme. It takes a woman a while to build to that emotional state. The male equivalent can go bang after just a few messages, or a single date.
What in the sexist generalizations
I mean, they started with “a few of”.
For those who didn’t know,
(AI)
A “bunny boiler” is a slang term for a dangerously obsessive, vengeful person (usually a woman) spurned by a lover, originating from the iconic 1987 film Fatal Attraction, where Glenn Close’s character boils a pet rabbit to terrorize her ex-lover’s family. The term describes an unstable individual prone to extreme, often violent, emotional outbursts after rejection, becoming a cultural shorthand for such behavior.And this shit?
The male equivalent can go bang after just a few messages, or a single date.
That’s only if you need women that badly, or men, or anything.
I just need my fellow male co-workers to stop being toxic, or threatening to do things to me.
I need my male friends to stop tearing me down too (taken care of, went no contact).
I got decent friends, but I’m stuck with certain crude co-workers who display disgusting behavior (like insisting I grab my female co-worker by the pussy, and so on).
EDIT: If it was not obvious, most of my disgruntment (and distrust for women by extension) is actually due to awful treatment from male friends. So if I could date at all, I would rather not, or would rather put it off, because I don’t want to get burned by women too. The lesson I guess, is that most of men’s suffering is actually from other men.
What kind of 3rd world country do you work in? Any many doing that shit would be fired so fast here its not funny.
Oh you know, Serbia. Can someone just nuke us already please? If there is an invasion, I’m helping it out.
don’t be a doormat, proper response is ‘ok’
*edit for clarity, I’m talking about the guy threatening to kill himself, she needs to hard cutoff that guy
She called someone who she trusts in a time when she needed support. I made sure she was safe, calm and around people she felt safe being around for the rest of the night.
Before that night, we became our own little mental health support group so of course I’m going to make sure she feels safe after dealing with some unhinged shit like how that guy was acting.
Also she lives in a different country, her life is her own as much as my life is my own in my own country. It’s possible for two people to be friends, care for each other and not expect to be in an intimate or romantic relationship with each other.
what? not her my dude, him
i was so very confused
Aaah sorry, I thought the earlier comment initially came off as dismissive towards my friend. All good.
I don’t recall what my friend said but dude got kicked out of the glow-in-the-dark mini golf place and she got to have his drink for free before finding her safe friends again. Problem solved itself fortunately.
Yeah yeah all men are shit./s
“men are scared women will laugh in their face, while women are scared it’s their lives men will take”
Still sounds like HR
They have police, cutting people off, & public shaming for that.
Trying to prevent you from getting threatening and nasty due to the threat to your “masculinity”.
It’s hurtful that they think I’d even be threatening and nasty. That they just immediately assume I’m some kind of monster. It makes me feel like I have no value.
You don’t know that anyone who responds this way actually thinks this. There are a limited amount of ways to communicate that they’re not interested and over-explaining and hedging their niceness would also just backfire. They gave exactly as much explanation as needed. It may come off a bit stiff because the tone is neutral (and they only use “I” sentences - speaking only what they know to be true instead of projecting with “you” sentences).
You may want more validation and that’s fine. But nobody owes it to you. You say “they just immediately assume I’m some kind of monster” - but you could be doing the same thing in assuming their motivations when they only speak neutrally.
#notallmen. spare us the crocodile tears
Oops, your prejudice is showing.
Nobody deserves to be judged for the circumstances of their birth. If you make any exceptions, you’re breaking the social contract and nobody is obliged to tolerate you.
nobody said anything about circumstances. this is about men not doing shit about the patriarchy while at the same time painting themselves as the victims of it
nobody said anything about circumstances
Being born a man is a circumstance, and if you judge someone for it it’s prejudice.
this is about men not doing shit about the patriarchy while at the same time painting themselves as the victims of it
This right here, also Goomba Fallacy.
Stop being an ass.
Is it really all that surprising that when
- Dating, especially with apps, has become for so many such a soul-crushing impersonal numbers game
- Enough people (but mostly fragile men) become menacing upon being rejected
- Enough people keep complaining about how bad it feels to get ghosted
someone would end up sending this?
Jesus Christ, try and get into other people’s shoes from time to time.
I’d love to.
But I’m EU39/UK6 so chances are I’ll trip and fall when I’m in other people’s shoes.
Honestly yeah, this is better than ghosting so good on her
I think this person broke up with ChatGPT
Eh, the AI will get over it.
There are scattered reports of women using LLM bots in the dating process.
Indeed
Jaffa kree!
Hopefully amusing aside: When I first got into SG-1 I was taking French classes in high school, so in my head I always spelled in “Jaffa, Cris!”
